Today I was reminded of two things...Both concern me, and both have been repeatedly mentioned to me in the past...The first is that not all things can be treated or approached from the black & white perspective...And the second is that I must have patience...
Ok, I will accept both of the statements as valid, and I will also agree that I should integrate these two in my life...But this is as far as I will go...And I will use the following statements to my defense...Starting with this: I am a perfectionist, and I do not like "gray zones" !!! If something should be done, or could be done, then it should be done in the most accurate and appropriate manner or not at all. I cannot cope with statements or attitudes that promote mediocre results, nor people saying that if it works, then you don't need to fix it...What must be done, it must be done perfect...And to my defense, I clarify that to my colleagues from the first minute we get together...If I see effort, true effort, then I can cope with any undesired outcomes, but if I don't, then even I cannot stand to listen to me. Hey, at least I am honest, and I am from the first moment...
Now comes patience...In perfect harmony to my approach of "black or white", my patience is cosumed very fast, and I am running out of it daily...And the point is that I do, because people will not help me to keep it stored...Because when you know that something bothers me, then you should not do it...And if you do it once, it is forgiven, twice you are warned, three - your ass is mine mother fucker!!! It is respect for the person next to us that makes us better, and this has disappeared from the face of the earth...Well, as far as patience is concerned, I have a simple, very basic rule...I treat others as I want to be treated from them...
Which means that if I want them to be polite to me, I am polite to them. The catch is, that others don't realize that, so usually they try to take advantage of it, so...Well, you can imagine the rest...
So, why is it that people around my - except those that know me for a while - ask me to change, when in fact, what they ask me to change into is far worse than what I am? Why is it that they cannot be polite and reasonable, follow instructions when they do not know something, and stand firm in their beliefs when they do know it?
Why must they hide behind lame excuses of the kind "(s)he didn't do it any better, so why bother"? Is it so difficult, and bad now days to stand out not because you dress in a certain way, or act in a certain way, but because you are actually doing something as it should be done, or you are simply good at something?
It eludes me how, in the era of specialization, people my age prefer to hide in the gray zones, instead of struggling to develop new ideas, become really good in something, simply because they are afraid of failing...Simply because they were brought up in such manner...Failure is not nice, nor welcomed, but it is inescapable, and if you learn from it you become better, and significantly limit your future chances of failing again...Besides, I am one of those people that believe that if you try hard enough, and you do the things the way they are supposed to be done, then you cannot fail, unless someone sabotages you...
In which case, you have a war to win...
Ok, I will accept both of the statements as valid, and I will also agree that I should integrate these two in my life...But this is as far as I will go...And I will use the following statements to my defense...Starting with this: I am a perfectionist, and I do not like "gray zones" !!! If something should be done, or could be done, then it should be done in the most accurate and appropriate manner or not at all. I cannot cope with statements or attitudes that promote mediocre results, nor people saying that if it works, then you don't need to fix it...What must be done, it must be done perfect...And to my defense, I clarify that to my colleagues from the first minute we get together...If I see effort, true effort, then I can cope with any undesired outcomes, but if I don't, then even I cannot stand to listen to me. Hey, at least I am honest, and I am from the first moment...
Now comes patience...In perfect harmony to my approach of "black or white", my patience is cosumed very fast, and I am running out of it daily...And the point is that I do, because people will not help me to keep it stored...Because when you know that something bothers me, then you should not do it...And if you do it once, it is forgiven, twice you are warned, three - your ass is mine mother fucker!!! It is respect for the person next to us that makes us better, and this has disappeared from the face of the earth...Well, as far as patience is concerned, I have a simple, very basic rule...I treat others as I want to be treated from them...
Which means that if I want them to be polite to me, I am polite to them. The catch is, that others don't realize that, so usually they try to take advantage of it, so...Well, you can imagine the rest...
So, why is it that people around my - except those that know me for a while - ask me to change, when in fact, what they ask me to change into is far worse than what I am? Why is it that they cannot be polite and reasonable, follow instructions when they do not know something, and stand firm in their beliefs when they do know it?
Why must they hide behind lame excuses of the kind "(s)he didn't do it any better, so why bother"? Is it so difficult, and bad now days to stand out not because you dress in a certain way, or act in a certain way, but because you are actually doing something as it should be done, or you are simply good at something?
It eludes me how, in the era of specialization, people my age prefer to hide in the gray zones, instead of struggling to develop new ideas, become really good in something, simply because they are afraid of failing...Simply because they were brought up in such manner...Failure is not nice, nor welcomed, but it is inescapable, and if you learn from it you become better, and significantly limit your future chances of failing again...Besides, I am one of those people that believe that if you try hard enough, and you do the things the way they are supposed to be done, then you cannot fail, unless someone sabotages you...
In which case, you have a war to win...
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